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How hedonistic is that?  The ole self absorbed “Things About Me” list. Clearly, the only audience I’m thinking of on this one is me.  You can “read in” if you want to.

1. I don’t get jealous.  I just get another date.
2. I refuse to spend any more time than absolutely necessary with people who view me as inadequate, for whatever reason.  Okay, unless I’m paid to work with them, then I’ll endure it, but not if I don’t absolutely have to. I lie.  I once endured 8 years of working with a group of people who treated me as though I was nonexistent or inferior.  I did it because I needed to, but I sure am done with that.
3. I try to surround myself with people who are better at the stuff I want to be really good at than I am.  This explains why most of my friends have really healthy lifestyles, good marriages, great people skills, great writing skills, are good parents, or they are just good people and friends.  I suck at all that stuff.  j/k
4. I’ll never settle in a relationship again.
5. In fact, I think I honestly might not ever be “in a relationship” again.  It’s kind of a hassle.  Like my 15-year-old says, “No Boyfriend. No Problems.” 
6. I am a lousy gift-giver on gift giving occasions, but I’m incredibly creative at other times of the year when there is just absolutely no reason to give a gift.  I hate this.
7. Speaking of gifts, I do enjoy giving them and if I had a load of money, I would probably spend some of it giving people stuff.  Like laptops for teachers in schools and more computers and the network capability and funding for schools to really use technology to teach kids with instead of having to have six kids for every one computer in a classroom (and that would be a good ratio at my school).  Most of the time, I’d just buy my married friends dinners out or my single friends gift certificates to day spas. 
8. I would not go crazy giving people stuff if I had endless money.  I would invest wisely…and I’d pay well for that wisdom.
9. I’m not the best gift wrapper, thus a bag and some tissue work well for me.
10. I know my friends like me for who I am and not my money…because I have no money.  This is a good feeling (not the part about having no money, but the friends liking me even though I have none right now.)
11. I love a clean house. 
12. I hate washing dishes.  This is not a good thing since I don’t have a dishwasher.  I do have four kids so, that helps.  Even so I still have to re-do some things, depending upon who washed.  I hate that.
13. I love pets as long as they are someone else’s.  This also does not work well for me since I have two dogs who are desperately understimulated and overly ignored now that all my children are outgrowing them. Oh, and I forgot to mention, they don’t take care of the feeding and watering of said dogs thus leaving me with more jobs to do every day.
14. I am left handed.  Is that a bad thing?  I don’t think that is a bad thing. I like it.
15. I used to spend a lot of time wondering and pondering why people “go silent”.  I no longer care.  I can still tell though, when it will happen, almost in a predictive self-fulfilling prophecy sort of way.
16. I have never been to Disneyland.  I really don’t ever want to go.
17. I have never been to Hawaii.  I really don’t ever want to go.  I’d rather go to Australia or Greece or the Bahamas.
18. I think it would be a blast to live and teach in a foreign country.
19. I have regrets and lots of them.  The biggest one is that I wish I had the confidence I have now back when I was 22.  I’d have done a lot of stuff on my Bucket List by now. 
20. Not alot scares me any more.  Well, okay, I lied.  Getting up and speaking in front of the staff at my school scares the hell outta me. Other than that, ask me to speak  in front of thousands and I’m golden.
21. I am sometimes afraid about dying.  More often, I’m afraid of the pain or suffering that will happening during the dying.  I think this might be like childbirth; really awful for a short period of time, but then I’m not sure they have developed an epidural for death yet.
22.  I love a real wood burning stove or fireplace.  It’s not the most convenient in terms of mess and effort, but it sure is warm and cozy on those cold winter nights.
23. I can stand being alone.  I can stand being alone for very long periods of time.  I actually like it.  If I don’t get my regular dose of solitude I can become a little tired and tense.
24. I love being out in the sun.
25. I hate being cold.
26. I love pillows and lots of them on a couch or a bed.  You should just be able to sink comfortably into the or curl up on themwhenever you feel like it.
27. My favorite drink is a Long Island Ice Tea, followed closely by a Vodka Cranberry (double).
28. I love the water and can swim incredibly well, though I’m out of shape. One thing that does not scare me is the water.
29. On second thought, large bodies of water at night creep me out, but this is only situational and occasional.  Sitting on the ocean beach at night if it is a moonlit night or by the lake doesn’t freak me out…it only mildly gives me the creeps.
30. I won’t ever lie about my age.  Oh, I lied about that too!  I tell my students all the time that I’m a hundred and twenty-five.   I guess I do lie about my age.  That, too, is also only situational and occasional.
31. I’ve said 30 things about myself?  Wow.  I can’t believe I could come up with 30 things about myself that I thought I needed to tell myself.  I can’t believe I have more still.  I’m in a really self-absorbed mood.
32. I love to have a glass of wine in the hot tub.  Screw it.  I like the whole bottle in the hot tub.  But it has to be a small bottle, otherwise I might not find my way out of the hot tub.
33. I really no longer care whether or not people like me.  I used to worry about this a lot when I was younger.  I now only care that the relationships with the important people in my life are good.  Some of those relationships with the important people in my life are not good.  This makes me sad. 
34. Who a person is matters more to me than what they look like, but when choosing a romantic interest, I like to be attracted to him physically too.  Who says looks only matter to guys?
35. My oldest daughter often challenges my thinking. 
36. My second oldest daughter makes me laugh.
37. My son completely baffles me.  He’s so bright and competent but he acts so helpless.  Like today, he couldn’t (wouldn’t) read the directions on the box to figure out how to cook the Mozarella sticks.  This is an honor student we’re talking about here.  I think he just wanted some attention from Mom.  Who says a 13-year-old boy doesn’t need time with Mom?
38. My youngest child is the one somehow I feel I need to protect the most. On the other hand, she’s a scrapper and knows how to take care of herself pretty well. She’ll be okay.
39. I worry about all my kids and I’m extremely proud of them too.
40. I wish I never would have married my second husband.
41. I wish I would never have let him con me out of millions.  LOL!  Like I had millions, but I had more then than I do now.  Never again will I listen to a good-looking, smooth talking con artist who wants everything from me and gives nothing back.  In the future my mantra is, “What’s in it for me, baby!”  (Yes, definitely more unadulterated and unapologetic hedonism and self-absorption on my part. )
42. I’m on  #42 and I’m going to stop here for now, because my girls want to go in the hot tub and I do too.  It’s way fun, especially because it is raining outside and that’s the best time to sit in the H.T.